Anger is often the most evident expression, sometimes showing as it appears, while other times, it manifests in a passive form. Anger can make us lose control and engage in destructive behavior. It not only affects others but also us in the short and long run if not dealt with properly. Any emotion that takes charge of you is not helpful. Therefore, it is necessary to reflect on where it originates from and how you can work on its root cause.

Learning triggers is important because it acts as a preventive measure against destruction. Our thoughts lead to our feelings, which then lead to our actions. Therefore, untangling the strings in our minds is important.

How do we learn our triggers for anger and examine our thought patterns?

  • Know Yourself: Are you prone to passive aggression, or do you express anger in a loud and hyper manner? How often does anger take control of you, and what kind of damage has it caused so far, both to yourself and others? This is important as it increases self-awareness.
  • Learn the Art of Reflection: In specific events, what made you lose your cool? What values of yours were compromised, or how did the situation not align with what you expected in terms of promises, reliability, discipline, and so on? Identify the positive and negative outcomes that hinder your growth.
  • Journal Your Emotions and Actions: Some of us are comfortable talking it out in a safe space, while others find comfort in themselves. Journaling can be an effective technique to vent your thoughts in raw form and discover the patterns in your thoughts and feelings. This technique becomes more effective as you become more open to accepting your shortcomings without judging yourself. Acceptance helps close the gaps by allowing you to work on solutions in a strategic manner.
  • Address Deep-Rooted Issues: Reflecting on your most unhealed wounds, traumas, or negative unhealthy patterns can be hard to accept, but often the answer lies in these deep-rooted, unhealed aspects of your past. Seek help and support to cope effectively. Letting go of this burden helps you feel lighter, but it must be done with a guided, systematic approach.


Examining your thought patterns brings you into the present moment, allowing you to deal with your triggers more responsibly and focus on resolution rather than revisiting past events.

Rejuvenation is the result of a process that requires forgiveness, compassion, and a positive state of mind. Once you understand your triggering points, you can clearly visualize the harm they’ve been doing to you and the people around you. This realization will help you decide whether you wish to take control of your emotions or let them control your decisions, state of mind, and thought processes.

Know yourself a little better. Focus on what helps you live one day at a time peacefully and strive to respond rather than react.